email to fariborz pakseresht and zachary gehringer:
please also consider how tremendously embarrassing and revictimizing it is to have to retell and retell this story of sexual abuse to countless men in positions of power at the park, at NWSDS, and now DHS, police, the district attorney
all with the same outcome:
i am not believed i am not valued
my value to my community is subsumed.
i want to know something very specific.
when Chris Duffy hired attorney Chris Palmer to aggressively harass me in 2019 to intimidate me into dropping my protective order barring his stalking for assaulting me—
does DHS ever consider it appropriate for a DHS funded program partner to attempt to invade the medical privacy of a client who is a crime victim?
i felt even more stalked: now with his lawyer.do you realize how frightening this was?
i considered this a separate and despicable offense.
do you consider that our Clatsop County DA is underfunded, overworked, possibly defeated in life, and unwilling to prosecute the attacker bc it would disrupt the public trust and defeat future parks 20 million dollar finance goals?
do you realize even an unconscious corruption may permeate the decision?How important do i have to be to have a sexual assault i experienced taken seriously?if you treat me this way, how would you treat a woman less educated than i?you must make an intake process less hostile to victims.
every step of the way as this case has been passed from male attacker/director of meals on wheels chris duffy himself whom i tried to get accountability for his actions from—to his boss skyler archibald—–to male detective ken hansen—to NWSDS kevin grossnicklaus—to a 4 out of 5 parks district board—to the male dominated seaside city council——to male BOLI investigator who was very concerned—to male Clatsop DA Ron Brown—to male Victims Assistance ben bradshaw—-to DHS mike mccormick—to darren gooch who called me obscene for speaking about sexual assault—to DHS pakseresht fariborz—-then zachary gehringer —-i have felt specifically sexually humiliated over and over by telling men—–about a horrifying violent overpowering of my female body by a man with a male body who i stupidly trusted bc of his position.
why should i trust you with this information, if you demean me by implying that my being discriminated from services, employment, volunteering, and family outings with beloved senior citizens at the facility is unimportant?
i began to feel more at ease when NWSDS shaysee may and tanya dehart became involved. something in their voice let me know they understood the pain.
please address the way the gendered handling of complaints of this nature could be VERY traumatizing to victims.
please consider my observations in your future handling of complaints.
consider finding ways to make victims feel comfortable to come forward that is culturally sensitive, including regarding the difficulty of speaking to men about sexual assault.
male sexual abuse victims or GLBT may feel more comfortable in settings sensitive to their needs.why can this not be a part of how you handle this type of case?
please consider apologizing for making me feel uncomfortable with dismissive tones.
please understand i am not trying to be sexist.
being aware of a harmful impact of the investigation process on the victims of perpetrators working for DHS funded programs could help DHS be more successful in assisting the future programs succeed in being more inclusive and less abusive.
https://wrestlingandtussling.blogspot.com/2020/02/revictimizing-meals-on-wheels-sexual.html
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