7/6/18: Adult Protection must ensure they are safe, and I as well, as i have federal disability protection, which i believe Duffy sought to exploit.
His assault happened in HUD housing in a Disability building, around seniors and disabled adults, including blind people, hearing impaired people, and people with severe conditions.
I have let NOHA and HUD know as i see a conflict, in a county or city or parks employee, violating the rights of a protected class in a federal building.
HUD released me on a Violence Against Women Act release clause from my lease.
i was so worried about his behavior, i escorted him out, and up the hill home, to discuss what he had done, to see if more abuse was likely, and to get him away from the seniors i was worried he might lurk in the halls, and hurt the old ladies, or break in to my apartment if i did not make sure he was out.
he begged to come in, by trickery, and completely tried to manipulate me into thinking we were friends, and would work on projects, political, creative, etc.
Duffy had no respect for my status as a survivor of extreme stalking and homicidal violence, he was aware of physical injuries that impacted my ability to fight him off, he chose to predate on me, in the former hospital now HUD housing, where i sought sanctuary after testifying about the violent assault i experienced only a year b4.
He invaded my privacy. He disrespected every reason i gave him to stop coming on to me, such that i exhausted my list of reasons, and feel like he extracted personal info from me, only to exploit my vulnerabilities.
let’s just hope he keeps his hands off the seniors.
he has kicked out a hearing disabled senior from senior meals, due to his needing his wife to speak loudly. (ADA violation). speak to redacted for confirmation.
He has denied food to spouses of seniors, and forced them to go hungry while their partner eats.
i witnessed chris duffy engage in an excessively long hug with a senior female age 70 at his work. she may not find it inappropriate, but in the context of his previous attack, i did.
i witnessed inappropriate flirting with a co-worker.
he broke my best friend’s heart by leading her on.
his girlfriend was suicidal (possibly bc of abuse???) and she kicked him out at the time of his attack on me.
he admitted to me shouting at his girlfriend, multiple DUI’s, trying to buy drugs.
He is also supposed to be a Mandatory Reporter of abuse, as a care worker for the aged. So how can he engage in #NonConsensualWrestling with no waiver of liability, no agreement, etc.
via trickery and #quidproquo i have no idea why this should fly under the radar
something’s wrong here.
He used your station to play “WELFARE MOTHERS MAKE BETTER LOVERS” to harass his girlfriend. He confessed to using the radio to play this song to her last year, when she was texting him.
IS she a victim of unwanted “wrestling” or “tussling” pin-downs, crush holds, or such?
Her name is Kim Hazel i think, a schoolteacher from Utah with four children. Maybe you should find her and see if she is okay, and make sure he is not abusing her or her kids. her email is kimbojets@hotmail.com i have never met her, or spoken to her, or written her, and i hope she is okay.
I can assure you, that the force he used to pin me down, was sudden and aggressive, against my will, painful, and frightening, and of a sexual nature, domineering and cruel.
It is terrible to think there are other victims out there.
i have never wrestled, we are not the same size, gender, weight, and i do not think any boy should be allowed to go to kindergarten, if he thinks he can … act like Chris Duffy.
His harassment was upsetting, but when it escalated, my ability to manage it was over.
I will have more insight by Monday.
The excessive groping, and my attempts to curtail it i realize was in an atmosphere of fear and disbelief. he did not respect my consent or my boundaries.
The gropes alone would be definitely sexual harassment, misplaced, unwanted, extracted by coercion, cornering me, violating my personal space, and quid pro quo offer of the Coast radio gig and travel and offers to room-mate with me, which i found invasive.
I trusted him as a social worker, educated person, and due to his progressive facade.
i was afraid of him the moment he started talking herpes.
when he asked to take me on a trip, i began fearing him, that his delusions were running away with him. i would be scared to travel with him, even in a car in this county. when he suddenly got violent, i feared rape.
i am concerned that he did this sudden violence on me, to have some fantasy in his mind, due to my rejecting his advances while trying to preserve the friendship.
i have no idea if the justice system wants to work with this. feel free to call them if you want to see what they are willing to tell you. in the state of California where i took paralegal classes, the laws have progressively positioned the burden on the system, instead of the victim. victims frequently protect abusers, out of fear, shame, embarrassment, the excessive shock and turmoil which ensues, and the grooming that causes you to think your abuser is your friend.
My partner suffered an extreme breakdown over this, and there is no way to fix things that are broken.
If i were Chris Duffy, i would turn myself in to authorities, ask for a plea deal. he could explain in greater detail his motive and where he positioned his hands, and pinned my legs against my will, how long he held me down, and why he released me.
there was nothing “playful” about it. his face was cruel, mean, sinister when he did it, delighting in seeing me squirm and seeing my despair that my arms and legs were restricted.
maybe he likes the fact he scared me. maybe that excites him.
I believe it is APS’s obligation to report criminal activity to police, due to their status as Mandatory Reporters of Abuse.
Perhaps why i find this euphemistic admission of “tussling” and “wrestling” women so offensive, is i have first hand experience of how violent he got with ZERO consent.
I worry who else these other women are he “wrestles” and if they will come forward with similar abuse. maybe never.
If the authorities see what i see, then maybe they want to prosecute it?
Would you?
Would you want a 6″6 man trying to “wrestle” or “tussle” with your female relative, as he presses his erection on her, after pestering and badgering her for hours?
I hoped i could keep his sexual harassment in check, but when he overpowered me, he decided to “WIN” his dirty little game.
I had asked him to leave, he punished me.
Just keep Coast Radio safe, and i am so sorry to be the messenger of such sad news.
i appreciate very much your biography in the paper and the serious care you have for radio.
It is unfortunate, that humanity has such surprising incidents of unexpected pathology.
He truly did not strike me as the type. I have a lot of nice civilized men in my family, who would not take kindly to their loved one being manhandled, frightened, pressured, or intimidated.
i do believe he mischaracterized my friendship through his perverse egotistical notion i found him sexually appealing, which i do not, and have never. i thought of him as a possible “guy friend” and realize he is not, and was possibly just grooming me for this assault.
i told you he assaulted me, but now you have confirmation from his account, in which tries to blame me for complying with some of his harassment in fear, and in exhaustion, and in believe i could keep his behavior platonic and non-romantic.
(Bob Chisholm’s Meals on Wheels)Chris Duffy is the person who says: “Thinking back, I may have initiated some tussling or playful wrestling. I do think the tussling probably happened….I have wrestled playfully with partners in the past“
https://wrestlingandtussling.blogspot.com/2020/02/vulnerable-nexus-of-sex-abusers-with.html
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